the science of self control

LEARN SUSTAINABLE WAYS OF SELF-CONTROL

SUMMARY OF THE BOOK: The Strength Model of Self-Control”

 by Baumeister, Vohs, and Tice

Chapter 1: What Is Self-Control and Why It Matters

1. Self-control is the ability to override impulses to align behaviour with values, goals, or societal norms.

2. It plays a major role in resisting temptations (e.g., food, aggression, laziness).

3. Self-control is distinct from automatic self-regulation (like homeostasis). It is effortful and conscious.

4. Poor self-control is linked to addiction, overeating, crime, underachievement, and emotional instability.

5. Self-control is central to the self ... it's not just a behaviour, it's a key part of identity and functioning.

Chapter 2: The Strength Model of Ego Depletion

1. Self-control operates like a muscle—each act uses a limited resource.

2. After exertion, people experience ego depletion, impairing future self-control efforts.

3. This has been demonstrated across many tasks: thought suppression, emotional regulation, resisting temptation.

4. Ego depletion isn't just demotivation or low self-efficacy—it’s resource-based.

5. The term “willpower” regains psychological relevance through this energy-depletion model.

Chapter 3: The Role of Glucose & Biological Energy

1. Acts of self-control lower blood glucose, a key brain fuel.

2. Restoring glucose (e.g., via sugary lemonade) can reverse ego depletion temporarily.

3. Artificial sweeteners (no glucose) do not restore willpower.

4. The body’s energy is used for complex, rational, effortful control—this is biologically expensive.

5. This strengthens the case that self-control isn’t just “mental”—it’s metabolic.

Chapter 4: Strategies to Build and Sustain Self-Control

1. Just like muscles, self-control can be strengthened with regular use.

2. Practicing small efforts (e.g. improving posture, using non-dominant hand) leads to gains across life areas.

3. People conserve energy if they expect future self-control demands.

4. Motivation, rewards, and goals can temporarily override depletion effects.

5. Positive emotion, implementation intentions (“if X, then Y”), and social goals all help counteract depletion.

Chapter 5: Broader Implications & Future Directions

1. Self-control affects intelligence, decision-making, and morality (e.g., racial tolerance, relationship kindness).

2. Impression management and social interactions can drain self-control.

3. The model suggests the self is dynamic, using energy for complex social and moral actions.

4. Training self-control can improve education, therapy, parenting, and leadership outcomes.

5. Unlike IQ, self-control can be improved at any age—offering hope for wide-ranging positive change.

HOW TO CONNECT THIS TO INTERNAL FAMILY SYSTEMS:

When a part has been working hard all day (e.g., suppressing anger or urges), it becomes depleted, increasing the risk of “exile flooding” or impulsive firefighter takeovers.

I’m depleted” becomes “This part is tired of holding the line.”

Firefighters step in when managers fail.

e.g. After holding it together at work, a person overeats or drinks because the manager is depleted and the firefighter hijacks the system. Invite compassion for both the manager who tried hard, and the firefighter who’s trying to help in its own way.

In IFS-informed practice, we build willpower not by white-knuckling, but by helping protective parts relax into trusting the Self to lead.

Self is limitless—calm, clarity, compassion aren’t resources that run out. What gets depleted is our access to Self-energy due to part activation. When depleted, check “who’s in the lead?” Often it’s a part who thinks it has to carry everything alone.

Just like muscle building, Baumeister’s research supports gradual self-control training (e.g., using the non-dominant hand). In IFS we might combine this with daily check-ins with parts who

• Resist discipline

• Fear failure

• Distrust consistency

  “Before I do a willpower task, can I check in with who’s afraid I’ll burn out or fail?”

Self-control is the ability to align with our highest values. In IFS, we don’t force this alignment, we negotiate it with the parts of us that are protecting, reacting, or fearing. The strength model reminds us that these parts get tired. IFS helps us lead with Self, so we no longer rely on brute willpower ... but on inner collaboration